DEAR DEIDRE: I AM considering breaking things off with my fiancé because I can’t stand his clingy mum.
I am a woman of 27, he is 32 and we are due to tie the knot in July.
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But I’m having second thoughts as I’m not sure I can deal with his mum for the next 30 years.
She is 61. She calls him at least twice a day and texts him constantly if he doesn’t answer.
She also demands we visit every weekend, and guilt trips us if we can’t.
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Weirdly, when she’s drunk, she demands private conversations with him.
She’ll tell him to ask me to leave the room. I’m convinced she uses it as an opportunity to tell him what she really thinks of me and our relationship.
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DEIDRE SAYS: She is behaving inappropriately, but it would be a shame if she succeeds in driving a wedge between you and your partner.
Her behaviour suggests she is very insecure about her mother/son relationship.
Speak to him about how much this bothers you. He needs to talk to her and set clear boundaries.
But if he’s not willing to stand up to her, then you may need to consider your future, as this issue will simply continue.
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