My boyfriend pesters me for sex so much that I've completely lost the urge

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M sick of putting out every single day just to keep my relationship on track.

My boyfriend wants sex all the time and I’m running out of “to do” lists to keep me otherwise occupied.

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I used to enjoy sex before we had our son, who is four months old. But recently I’ve completely lost the urge.

Now I honestly wouldn’t care if I never have sex again.

I’m 27 and my boyfriend is 29. He doesn’t care that I’m not interested any more.

He pesters me every day for sex and I hate it.

It’s so bad on occasions that I cringe when he comes near me. I just want to be left alone.

I find it exhausting running around after our son all day and keeping the house clean.

Then he comes home and demands sex – it’s absolutely the last thing I want.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It isn’t unusual for new mums to lose their libido.

Your hormones will be fluctuating hugely, you’ll be tired caring for your new baby and your body is undergoing huge changes.

Add your boyfriend’s constant demands for sex into the mix and you’ll be rightly feeling the pressure.

Talk to your boyfriend and explain his approach is making things worse.

Explain that you need taking care of too – to help those loving feelings to return.

Have a read of my support pack Sex Problems After A Baby, which will help.

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